After trusting the wrong people too many times, at what point does one get the lesson: “you haven’t learned to trust yourself?” Many people have said you attract who you are. While it is a true statement, maybe it should be clarified for a fuller understanding — you attract where you are. We all emit pheromones — chemicals released by an organism into its environment enabling it to communicate with other members of its own species. These pheromones can be sexual in nature, drawing us to one another or, they may be those that alarm us letting us know when we’re in a fight or flight situation.
When you’re whole, healed and can take responsibility for your own actions, you’re better positioned to clearly see when you’re attracting people of a similar state, thus attracting who you are. When you’re broken, wounded and still victimized by things in your past you will draw to you not a person of like standing, but rather a person willing to take advantage of yours — one who detects your brokenness, smells your wounds and sees your vulnerability, thus you’re attracting people to where you are. A structure whose walls are fortified is hard to penetrate. If I fortify my house with an alarm, cameras and/or a watch dog, then what was intended for my domain will more than likely move on to some place less secure. The enemy walks about seeking whom he may devour with the intent to steal, kill and destroy. When you’re established, built up and rooted in Christ your walls have been fortified. You may be a target, but the weapons formed will not prosper! We have to become as wise as our enemy, but not harm as he does.
Some people wonder why they keep running into the same situations or the same type of people who end up doing what others have done to them. If your focus remains on what others have done or are doing, things won’t change. Focus on yourself. Look within, find the source of the pain. If you’re looking for others to fix you, validate you, or make you feel complete, I have news — you’ll forever be broken! Give God every offense and offender. The wound has to be cleaned. Allow God to heal you. Focus on Christ and what He can do within you and not only will You change, your situations will change. Colossians 2:7 “Let your roots grow down into Him, let your lives be built on Him. Then your faith will grow strong in the truth and you will overflow with thankfulness.”
© 2012 Belinda Powell